General Information

Full Name: Mildred Sherman
Date of Death: Wednesday, May 22, 2024

SHERMAN – – Mildred “Millie” Sherman passed away in the early hours of Wednesday, May 22nd, 2024 in Plainsboro, New Jersey. She was 95 years old.

Daughter of Isidore Sherman and Rebecca (née Berman) Sherman, Mildred was born on December 21 st, 1928, in Brooklyn, New York.

Mildred will be remembered fondly for her sharp wit and keen observational humor. She was generous to share the splendor of her talents for baking and poetry with those she loved. She had an operatic singing voice that impressed all who were fortunate to listen. May these cherished memories and many more be a blessing to her family and friends.

She is survived by her daughter, Shari Rubinstein (Middletown, NJ), her grandchildren, Gillian McSpiritt (New York, NY), Matthew McSpiritt (Mexico City, Mexico), Steven Wolf (Glen Rock, NJ) and his wife, Deborah Wolf, and their son, Mildred’s great-grandchild, Ezra Wolf. She is also survived by her cousins, Fran Gerber, Phillip Sherman (Sacramento, CA), and Richard Sherman (Laguna Beach, CA) and his wife, Melissa Sherman.

She was preceded in death by her parents, her older brother, Henry “Hank” Bernard Sherman, and her cousins, Jim Gerstein and Maxine Gerstein.

Service Information

Friday, May 24, 2024
1:00 PM

Service At:
Mount Moriah Cemetery
685 Fairview Ave, Fairview, NJ 07022



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  1. Shari Rubinstein McSpiritt

    Mildred Sherman Remembrance 05.24.24
    • I’m grateful to my mother for giving me the greatest gift of all – life –
    • I lived under her heart for 9 months.  
    • One of the things that stands out most in my memory, about my mother, was her poetry.
    • In 1997 (at age 69) Mildred, who favored “Millie,” entered the Free Poetry Contest in Bergen County, that was sponsored by the New York Poetry Alliance.
    • The theme of this contest was “Love.”
    • When she submitted her poem, her cover letter included the sponsor’s description of the contest:   “It is certainly true that today’s world is consumed by so much hate and negativity, that it’s about time we started to focus on more important issues …  one way to help turn things around, for the better, starts in the home.”
    • “More love has to be shown towards each other, in order to transmit these feelings to anyone else.”
    • Millie went on to write “I am delighted that you have taken the initiative to awaken the public, that more attention should be given to “LOVE.”
    • “To keep up with this theme, I am herewith attaching an original poem written by “yours truly” which I hope you will enjoy reading.  Thank you for this opportunity to express myself.” 
    • In addition to being a poet, she possessed many other special traits – she was funny, talented, loved music and was a great cook and baker.
    • Millie made beautiful needlepoints and crewel embroidery creations.
    • In her 20’s, she was offered an audition on the Arthur Godfrey Show – which was similar to The Voice or America’s Got Talent.  
    • When she got to the audition, she was frozen with stage fright.  What could have been … wasn’t … but it never diminished her love of music. Her voice was a soprano, in a Barbra Streisand fashion.  During my childhood I remember the radio was always on in our home.
    • Sometimes she even combined her love of music and poetry. She wrote the following when Steven was born:
    “Twinkle, twinkle little star
    How I wonder what you are
    Warm and cozy as can be
    In your mommy’s big tummy,
    Soon you’ll pop out in this world
    Then I’ll know if you’re a boy or girl
    Oh how proud we all will be
    You’ll bring joy to our family
    Twinkle, twinkle little star
    I will love you near and far”
    She framed her poem, so it would coordinate with the décor of Steven’snursery.  Fast forward to 2023 … you can only imagine her joy when her great grandson, Ezra, was born.
    • Her poetry was always heartfelt and occasionally joyful, like the one I just read. Most often I think she wrote poetry to express her emotions about unrequited love,
    • and to work through her feelings about what was unattainable to her.
    • Millie was always ready with a greeting card for any occasion, with an accompanying note, in which she expressed herself most eloquently.
    • A little family history:
    • Millie’s mother, Rebecca Sherman, from what I was told, was delightful. Unfortunately, I didn’t know her because she passed (at age 56) when I was just 3 years old.
    • Her father, Isadore Sherman, was an extremely talented tailor and Milliecherished her father’s scissors.
    • I guess her father’s work with clothing rubbed off on Millie, because she loved clothes, although she actually neverwore a lot of them.
    • I think she invented retail therapy.
    • She was extremely close with her older brother by 5 years, Henry Sherman, known to everyone as “Hank.”
    • Hank chose to live his life to the fullest – he sold textiles, traveled extensively, and lived in the same building as Sammy Davis, Jr.
    • On the surface Millie and Hank might have seemed like opposites but underneath she was crazy about him.
    • Millie and Hank both collected Asian furniture, and art. I think of them both,as I have a lot of their Asian items in my home.
    • She was devastated when Hank died at the young age of 56.  
    • As her final expression of love for her brother, Millie chose to be buried here,next to Hank.
    • I was an only child, but when I was 8 years old “VIP” came to live with us. “VIP” stood for Very Important Poodle.
    • I and my children inherited Millie’s love of dogs. Millie really enjoyed our family’s first dog, Maggie. She also knew Gillian’s dog, Lexie, when I took Lexie to visit her in Maplewood Assisted Living facility where she lived.
    • If Millie made your acquaintance, she was exuberant and outgoing.  She had a small circle of friends, but the ones she adored, became life-long friends.
    • Although Millie never learned to drive, ride a bicycle or swim, she certainly mastered getting around.  Buses were her favorite mode of transportation.
    • She lived in Brooklyn, and then Fairviewand Cliffside Park, New Jersey.  
    • Although Millie lived in New Jersey for many years, she still frequented New York City, especially to buy groceries at Fairway Market in Manhattan.
    • She commuted frequently from New Jersey to lower Manhattan to help me in my business after my accident. We became very close during that time when we worked together. She handled a lot of administrative tasks, ran to and from the polisher and the gem setter, but there was one thing I could not convince her to do –
    • she refused to learn the computer.  When Millie made up her mind to do – or NOT do – something, there was no getting her to change her mind.
    • In closing, I’d like to recite another poem Millie wrote, so that you can gain insight into her thoughts and dreams …
    • This is my favorite of my mother’s poems and I know it by memory:
    “Dear God, why do I lay awake at night thinking of someone out of sight?
    Why does he take my breath away with his sweet little smile and his manner so gay?
    Why does his absence fill my heart with grief? For when I see him there’s such relief.
    Dear God, you must have the answers to the above … am I getting sick or is this just love?”


    Aunt Mildred stayed in touch with me her entire life. She was a devoted, loyal, and reliable aunt. Of all my aunts, she stood out for being the most personal, caring, and involved. She was a deeply caring person and had a strong moral center that I found bracing. She was fiercely independent and strongly opinionated. She had an overwhelming need to be heard, validated, and respected! She had a strong will and desire to live exceeding my expectations for her lifetime! She loved me and I loved her back. I will miss her a lot.

  3. Jamie Tapoler

    Dear Shari, family and friends, I write this with a smile on my face and sadness in my heart for all of you. Your Millie and the family sound so much like a lot of my own family I had to smile while reading through and say ro myself how familiar this sounds. Keep sharing your stories and keep Millie’ spirit going. She sounds like a wonderful person that you were incredibly lucky to have for so long. I believe she would be proud of what was written here. It was absolutely beautiful.
    Sending all of you love and condolences Min haShamayim Tenuhamu

  4. Dee Dee

    Oh my goodness!, Millie sounds like her joy was contagious and that she loved life to its fullest!
    How blessed you are to have someone so talented to guide you and inspire you. Let her poetry and memories live on through you and your family. She will be missed but never forgotten.


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